by ElleJay » Fri Oct 18, 2013 12:38 am
I have lived a long life, and have observed and experienced things contrary to the theory put forth that women are more morally deficient than men when it comes to marriage. It seems there is little room left for the many women I have known who were monogamous with flirtatious and cheating husbands. I believe there is enough "sin" in this area to go around where both men and women are concerned. (I do understand that the white male in general has been emasculated, but he really needs to stop wallowing in his "victim-hood" and be a man. There are many women in this world that truly want a man to be a man.)
There is also little room here for the woman who has accommodated her husband very regularly ... even when there is some sort of mental or physical abuse displayed by the man. There are issues where a woman is ill, but there is no understanding on the man's part ... and his demands (or desires) overrule illness ... even serious illness. There are times when a man may hate the way a woman is made ... that she is unclean each month ... and he sees that uncleanness as an impediment to his appetite. A sexual appetite, to me, can be compared to gluttony. There are times when self-control ... is important and necessary. (I also know of situations where the man deprived the woman ... and not because of a physical impediment ... nor was it for prayer and fasting!)
I know several women who married men, believing they were Christian men ... by their very behavior, including regular church attendance and involvement ... but once the man married her, he became a person the woman had never known before ... displaying all sorts of abhorrent behaviors ... admitting that "getting her" was his goal in life. I know of one marriage that was destroyed by a man such as this ... and his wife was a beautiful Christian woman who wanted intimacy ... but once he had her ... he was finished ... done ... and I cannot even describe to you how inhumane he was.
There are things that happen in a woman's life that can steer her in a direction she never thought she would go in ... when it comes to sexual sin. That is a sad scenario, and, in the end, she really has no one to blame but herself. Being deceived may come more easily for women, but Adam was held more responsible for the part he played, in my estimation, than was Eve. He was not deceived. He walked into his sin with his eyes wide open.
As for Mary Magdalene ... I am nearly certain that when she came to herself, and realized the depth of her sin, her grief ran deep. When one wants to be a spotless bride, and comes to the knowledge that she has lost that opportunity forever, it could be devastating, but for the grace and forgiveness of Jesus Christ. To live one's life with memories such as she had, even though she had been cleansed, had to have given her moments of wrenching regret that only someone who has walked in her shoes could understand.
I have known men and women who gloated in their sexual sin ... who flaunted it ... and who loved to try to trap the innocent, and if they did, gloated in the downfall of their prey to the fullest.
When it comes to bastard children ... SB is probably correct. It would be very difficult for a Mother to give them up. The men of the Old Testament ... I believe they were Benjamites ... walked away from the foreign wives and offspring, but it does not appear to me that it was easy for them, for they asked for time, and were given it, to set things in order. In today's climate of bastardization, I truly believe that when a woman understands this issue, too, she is perhaps even more devastated that she has succumbed to being with someone outside of the white race than the woman who realized she had given up her virginity multiple times ... and born a child. We were not taught ... by our parents ... and today it is even worse. White families adopt mongrel children more and more ... because they do not wish to appear "racist." They do not know it is anathema to our God, but should He open their eyes, they will not escape the self-recriminations that will come.
It is not easy when a Mother or a Father is unfaithful to a spouse, and children will bear the brunt of the sin. It will affect the children their entire lives and they will be scarred for life. It will affect their own marriages in one way or another ... and it may skew their view of women or men in general, depending upon which parent was unfaithful. My Mother's father had women throw themselves at him ... he was in the spotlight ... and he succumbed. It affected her all of her life.
Perhaps at issue here is in part a loss of objectivity because of hurt ... personal hurt. Anger and bitterness can rest beneath the surface towards one gender or another, and we do not even realize it is there. My Mother could not admit the affect her father's behavior had on her until very late in life. (She actually denied that it had affected her, but the proof was there for the seeing, yet she was either blind to it, or simply could not face it.)
No, I firmly believe there is enough blame to go around for both sexes ... men and women ... when it comes to sexual sin. Statistics do not show the human side. Statistics do not show true sorrow or repentance. We know that the gate to everlasting life is a narrow one, and the gate that leads to destruction is broad, and statistics do show that.
Compassion cannot be misplaced. We cannot separate the sin from the sinner and overlook the unrepentant heart. We cannot even behave brotherly towards the one who continues to practice sin. However, when true repentance comes to that one, and we have observed a changed life, we need to practice forgiveness. The true repentant will have plenty of reminders of how far he has fallen. He will not need us to remind him of his fall from time to time. It will be a thorn in his side always.
Elle